Bhagavad Gita 4.34

Know that by approaching with respect, by questioning, and by service. Those who see reality will teach you that knowledge.

तद्विद्धि प्रणिपातेन परिप्रश्नेन सेवया ।
उपदेक्ष्यन्ति ते ज्ञानं ज्ञानिनस्तत्त्वदर्शिनः ॥

tad viddhi pranipatena pariprasnena sevaya |
upadeksyanti te jnanam jnaninas tattva-darsinah ||

Know that by approaching with respect, by questioning, and by service. Those who see reality will teach you that knowledge.

Healing and understanding require your active participation. Whether you are speaking to a spiritual guide, a therapist, or a medical doctor, you must approach the process with an open mind (respect), ask honest questions about your condition (inquiry), and be willing to do the practical work of recovery ( seva or service). A wise counsellor or trained doctor (one who "sees reality") will guide you, but you must take the first step to ask for their help and actively engage in your own treatment.